After a long awaited divorce, a move cross country for a new job, and months of staying away from the dating game, I finally decided it was time to throw my heart out there again for the first time in two years. I did not expect much and like many single people, I had absolutely no idea what I was looking for or what I wanted.
Because I lived in a very rural part of Massachusetts I decided to give online dating a try, I had many friends that had accounts on dating websites like Tinder, OkCupid and POF. I created an account on the three different dating websites and let the messaging begin. I went on three dates over the course of a few months, each date was worse than the date before. One of the men put a month of effort into messaging back and forth, but on the first date, it was clear he just wanted a hook up, which was not my thing. The second guy dominated the date with his success, every conversation led back to how much money he made…Ironically enough at the end of dinner he asked to go dutch on the $26.00 check! The third guy choose to lie about everything in his profile, and saved his real personality for the first date at Buffalo Wild Wings, total catfish. He did not look like Colin Farrell and he was not 5’7!
… I logged into my POF account ready to call a quits, then I glanced down at the first message in my inbox. The message contained a quip about the fact that we both worked in the IT industry. He only had one picture, a side profile picture, so I had no clue what I was getting into, but he was funny so I gave him my number and said I’m deleting my POF account but here is my number…text me!
Almost simultaneously he texted me, we talked for about a month, both of us agreed we were too busy and didn’t want a relationship, we were just looking to casually date. I still had no clue what he looked like, when he finally asked me out I thought about blowing him off once or twice. Then he said the magic words…“Do you want to go to a Patriots game?” Ya I wanted to go to a Patriots game!!! Little did I know that game would change my life. The game was December 6th, 2015 against the Eagles, the night was so cold that by the end of the game my throat was swollen and I caught the flu. Although we lost the game that night, I definitely won.
By date three, we told each other at dinner “I don’t know where you’re at, but I don’t want to see anyone else.” Everyone around us could see it was love, our friends could tell by the way we looked at each other early on. They always tell us “I want what you guys have”, and saw our relationship as #RelationshipGoals. We had a tendency to be gifted free dinners when we went out because observant patrons could see how head over heels we were for each other, and opted to pay for our meal (Thank You to whoever you are!). He lived an hour away from me in Rhode Island, and was going to school for his Bachelor’s degree. I worked an hour away from my house in Boston, was in the process of starting my own business, yet somehow we managed to make it work for three years seeing each other faithfully only once a week! Our relationship has been filled with more laughter and adventure than I have experienced my whole life, he completely change by cynical outlook on love, and I owe it all to Plenty Of Fish (POF)!
When I started this journey if you were to ask me about my outlook on love or online dating, I was in such a dark place from my divorce that any response would have been discouraging. Now thanks to POF I am in love with the most amazing man I have ever met, and finally after three years we bought a house and moved in together! We cannot wait to get married, and start a family together. The truth is, love happens when you least expect it; not every date you will go on will turn into something but if your both open to it you just may find something special! It does not matter if you met online or at the bar, or if you started off as just friends…Love can happen anywhere, to anyone.
Thank you Plenty of Fish!